Surrender: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Surrender

Let Go. What heavy burden can you release?

Definition: give up control of something

Other: abandon, relinquish, yield, resign, waive

Opposite: resist, abstain, hold out, stand firm

Surrender is not failure or defeat or punishment. It is not a task to be accomplished with your mind. It is not an ending or a bad thing. Surrender happens when we know that we don’t know. We cannot think or see our way through where we are. It is giving up what we think should be happening for what is actually happening.

Surrender involves continuing to take action steps when appropriate while giving up means shifting all your energy elsewhere.

Surrender meets life as it is-right now. The situation doesn’t get easier or better but we feel better knowing we cannot fix it or figure it out. More effort, more doing, more thinking, more plans won’t work. We give up the notion that we should be able to or can manage the situation. That is clarity.

Surrender happens when we give up the belief that we can make REALITY different than it is. Let the illusion of control go. Acknowledge the reality. Accept the reality. That specific moment of surrender happens when it’s ready. Control falls away and takes us with it.

WHAT IS IT LIKE, RIGHT NOW, IF I LET EVERYTHING BE JUST AS IT IS?

Eckhart Tolle’s surrender strategy:

-Change the situation (if you can)

-Leave the situation (if you can)

-If you can’t do either, accept it as it is.

Accepting the present moment of now results in the outer turmoil becoming inner peace. There is a balance between what we can control and what we cannot. There is a fine line between effort and surrender. Surrender happens. We clearly see what action to take and no longer need to micromanage the entire issue, problem or situation. The right helps shows up to lead you on.

IT IS WHAT IT IS….is one of my favorite mottos that I utilize in my life. It is surrender. It is knowing.

Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. - Sonia Ricotti

Find the Good,

Becky and Janette

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Becky Wilbur is a woman who is wise-hearted and chooses to live with ease.   Well-being is the vision which lights her way with peace and love. 

As an encourager, healer and champion for flourishing and contentment, she is honored to inspire others on their journey of change. 

She is a widow, a mom to two girls and a mutt named Sadie from Modesto, CA.

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Possibility: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Possibility

What if it all works out?

Your Words of Wisdom (WOW) Guidance Card of the week for Living Life Better.

Definition: potential, hope, chance, belief

Other: could be, can, faith, find a way

Opposite: impossible, improbable, can’t, unlikely, no way

The challenges of 2020 have made us all dig deep and reach into our inner strength and draw on our faith and hope that things will work out and get better despite evidence to the contrary.

We have done difficult things, experienced dissension at every turn, and still, we look forward to the promise of a brighter tomorrow. We have grown, we have adapted, we have changed. Give yourself credit for all of the ways you have shown up and shined despite it all. You have lived in the field of possibility, you have experienced a “what if it all works out” attitude.

We, humans, are wired to get up and try again. As babies, we knew things were possible, we knew we could walk, talk and get what we wanted, we didn’t let setbacks defeat us. We tried again. We lived in the world of possibility. We were strong, courageous, and resilient. We didn’t give up.

How can we live in possibility mode?

·       We can ask ourselves if there is another way to look at a challenge when we are presented with an unexpected obstacle.

·       What else is possible in this situation?

·       Have I experienced a similar condition or circumstance?

·       Pray to be shown to see the situation with a fresh perspective.

·       Spend time in nature and listen to your inner guidance.

·       Journal.

·       Spend time with an uplifting friend.

·       Look for ways to Find the Good. 

Here are a couple of great quotes about possibility you may enjoy.

“Extraordinary people visualize not what is possible or probable, but rather what is impossible. And by visualizing the impossible, they begin to see it as possible” – Cherie Carter-Scott

“All things are possible until they are proved impossible and even the impossible may only be so, as of now.” – Pearl S. Buck 

“Even the word impossible suggests, I’m possible…”  - Unknown

Our salutation each week is to Find the Good, it is an invitation to live in the realm of possibility and we are cheering you on.

Find the Good,

Becky and Janette

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Find the Good.
Becky and Janette

Janette Stuart: Best Selling Author, Certified Angel Card Reader, Blogger, Military Mom, and Emissary of Joy at Angel Angles with Janette Stuart which will assist you to own and embrace your Divine Beauty and live a life of love, joy, and peace. Gentleness and Joy are my Superpowers. www.angel-angles.com

Pleasure: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Pleasure

I do what feels good.

Your Words of Wisdom (WOW) Guidance Card of the week for Living Life Better.

PLEASURE

I do what feels good.

Definition: Feeling of gratification aroused by something good or desired.

Other: Bliss, enjoyment, joy, delight.

Opposite: Misery, discontent, drudgery.

Pleasure is personal. What brings me pleasure, may make you yawn.

Our lives are meant to be joyful and pleasurable, sometimes we forget that. Sometimes we are too busy being a responsible adult or we allow the weight of the world crush our spirit, we forget about the importance of pleasure.

Pleasure can also mean giving others the time, resources or space to do what brings them joy. Being a good gift giver is to bestow the recipient with what lights them up, not what we find delightful.

Perhaps it’s been so long since you experienced pleasure you may have forgotten what it feels like. Today, make some time to revisit the topic of pleasure in your life.

Grab your journal, notebook or phone and write down what brings you a sense of pleasure. List 10 items. Now that you have your list of 10 items, circle one that you can do today and do that one thing. Think of it as pleasure homework or pleasure prescription. It might feel so wonderful, you may be able to do another.

If you feel you don’t have time for pleasure in your life right now, this message is especially important for you. We all can squeeze 5 minutes into any day for something pleasant which can totally improve the quality of our day. If you are too busy for 5 minutes of pleasure today, then it’s imperative you take 10 minutes. Lol. It will substantially benefit your sense of Well-Being and Wonder. You and your physical, mental and spiritual health will benefit not only you, but others in your life. This self-care benefits you and the world. It is not selfish, think of it as an act of public service.

What can you do in 5 minutes that lights you up? Here’s a few ideas:

·        Put on a fun song and sing along or dance to get your energy flowing.

·        Brew a cup of tea, coffee or another beverage that makes you feel good.

·        Make something.

·        Go look at nature right outside your door.

·        Walk around the building you are in.

·        Read something inspiring.

·        Chocolate?

·        Connect with an uplifting person.

 Wishing you a pleasurable week ahead.

 Words are so important to us. They are magnetic affirmations calling forth what we think, speak and write about. Join Janette for her free class to assist you creating your own word of the year. Visit here for more info. Save the date of Dec. 29, 2020.  

Find the Good.
Becky and Janette

Janette Stuart: Best Selling Author, Certified Angel Card Reader, Blogger, Military Mom, and Emissary of Joy at Angel Angles with Janette Stuart which will assist you to own and embrace your Divine Beauty and live a life of love, joy, and peace. Gentleness and Joy are my Superpowers. www.angel-angles.com

Radiance: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Radiance

What lights you up?

RADIANCE

What lights you up?

Definition: expression clearly emanating great joy, love or health, sending out light

Other: illumination, glow, sparkle, shimmer

Opposite: darkness, gloominess, lackluster

Radiance is connected to physical energy. It is like keeping your battery amped and charged. It is about growing and expanding. It is about putting your best foot forward and feeling genuinely positive. Your life experiences can contribute to radiance or can dampen the shine.

It is the truth of who you are.

 Have you seen someone so happy that their happiness shows in their face? Or maybe you looked in the mirror and saw that sparkle in your eyes, that shining brightness?

·       It comes from looking for the good.

·       It comes from a happy mind.

·       It comes from love.

·       It comes from contentment.

Not all days are good. But radiance comes from the self-care that nurtures us from the inside out and makes even the not so good days a little bit better. The importance of taking care of our body, mind and spirit is what makes radiance reflect the light of our hearts out into the world.

When we fill the world with light it illuminates goodness and life can be dazzling. When we claim the light by being kind, compassionate and caring then radiance becomes visible to all around us. Beauty is a radiance that originates from within and comes from inner peace, security, and a strong character.

When we create connections, we are open to possibilities and can serve others in ways we have not thought of before. You can see radiance all around:

·       a mother cuddling with her newborn baby

·       the light streaming in a window and warming your body with sparkles

·       a groom gazing at his bride, with love, as she walks towards him

·       a friend holding your hand in a crisis and just listening

·       a sunset shared with a loved one

Love can light up radiance. When you understand who you are and live true to yourself, then life becomes full of radiance. Creativity arrives, leads to opportunities and the radiance of your being glows from within. Let your light shine as inspiration to others. Figure out what lights you up.

“Learning how to be still, to really be still and let life happen-that stillness becomes a radiance.”

-Morgan Freeman

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Silver Lining Specialist

Becky Wilbur is a woman who is wise-hearted and chooses to live with ease.   Well-being is the vision which lights her way with peace and love. 

As an encourager, healer and champion for flourishing and contentment, she is honored to inspire others on their journey of change. 

She is a widow, a mom to two girls and a mutt named Sadie from Modesto, CA.

Contact her at beckywilbur@yahoo.com

Connection: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Connection

Reach out.

Your Words of Wisdom (WOW) Guidance Card of the week for Living Life Better.

CONNECTION 

Reach out.

Definition: aligned, bond, relationship, united

Other: collaborative, commonality, friendship

Opposite: disjointed, outcast, apart, divided

A big part of connection is making the effort to reach out and make the desired relationship happen. It’s probably easier to do nothing, yet relationships take effort and work to make them flourish. It’s like maintenance on your vehicle.  Regular attention needs to be paid to your vehicle to keep it running smoothly and when something goes amiss, repairs need to be made. We can’t just neglect our vehicles and expect them to keep running along smoothly. The same is true for our relationships.

Regular attention needs to happen and the occasional emergency needs to be dealt with to keep our connections (relationships, bonds, friendships…) in top form. Having bonds with others takes dedication. Relationships, bonds or connections don’t just happen.

A friend of mine is an excellent promoter of connection. She sends cards in the mail to me and my family for all of our important dates, events, celebrations and grieves with us to. It is such a delight to receive these tokens of her love and adoration in the mail and it brightens the day of both the sender and the recipient. She sets the bar quite high. She is a master connector.

I received some disappointing news this week and shortly thereafter the mail arrived and low and behold I had a handwritten note from a woman whose beautiful words and gift of kindness, made all the difference to me. It changed the trajectory of my day. Her effort made a huge difference to me. Each act of love we do, sows seeds of goodness and sends out ripples of love into the world which grow and grow.

Here I am sharing that act of loving connection with you, inviting you to consider the same so that we all can benefit from improved relationships and connection in the world. Her small act of kindness has magnified itself exponentially. It’s a beautiful upward spiral of goodness and grace.

Another friend of mine is another promoter of connection. She finds fun ways for us to try new adventures together and keeps the dialogue going between a small group of life-long friends.

During this period of social distancing, connection has been even more important. Thank goodness for technology such as phone calls, texts, emails and Zoom. I sure miss the physical connection between my family but Zooming together has been a life-saver and connection booster to the three generations in our family. What a great invention. It helps foster our sense of connection and strengthens our family ties.

I’ve been meeting with a group of friends bi-weekly on Zoom since we can’t gather in person. Whoever can show up does and we benefit from our time together. It’s good medicine for our body, minds and spirit.

How can you begin or enhance your connections this week?

·        If you are thinking about someone, take a moment, and reach out and connect.

·        Plan a virtual or in-person gathering.

·        Don’t wait for someone else to reach out to you, take the initiative and go for it.

·        Send a card, text, email to someone who could use a little encouragement (ps…we ALL could use a little tender, loving care these days.)

·        Do a random act of kindness.

·        Ask someone going through a tough time how you can help them.

Humans crave connection and whither without it. Your connections are important. A little effort to love and nurture these connections and relationships pays huge dividends. You are worthy and deserving of having, cultivating, and maintaining blessed connections and relationships. Reach out, you’ll be so glad you did.

Find the Good.
Becky and Janette

Janette Stuart: Best Selling Author, Certified Angel Card Reader, Blogger, Military Mom, and Emissary of Joy at Angel Angles with Janette Stuart which will assist you to own and embrace your Divine Beauty and live a life of love, joy, and peace. Gentleness and Joy are my Superpowers. www.angel-angles.com

Delight: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Delight

I look for the joy in my day.

DELIGHT

I look for the joy in my day.

Definition: a cause or source of great pleasure

Other: thrill, gladness, elation, happiness

Opposite: dismay, disgust, displeasure

Delight is a feeling of great happiness that just zings right into your mind and body. It’s a feeling that brings pleasure. It could be a thrilling event or an everyday happening. Sometimes delight takes your breath away by the unexpected surprise.

Delight is an intention and a practice. To be in the midst of difficulties and still be able to pay attention that all of sudden, a hummingbird lands on a flower, right in front of you. There is plenty of awful in the world, but at the same time, you can savor, using your senses to tune into the beautiful ordinary. Close your eyes and imagine you are standing in front of the oven door pulling out a loaf of bread that you made (or as I do, use frozen Bridgford ready-dough). There is heat wafting up into your face, you see the perfectly brown crust on the bread, you smell the aroma of yumminess, you hear the bread knife saw through the bread and watch as the butter melts into the nooks and crannies, and then you bite into that warm slice of deliciousness. For me this is delight.

Delight makes me want to share, not just bread, but the feeling of contentment and camaraderie.

Science shows that what elevates us in the beginning can become baseline over time. Delight can turn into expectation which can lead to habituation by absorbing the good and bad into a new equilibrium. If you give someone flowers every week it might fade from delight to whatever to a chore that has backfired from your original thoughtful reason. Keep tuning into small wonders that have been missed in the day to day humdrum of life. Random acts of delightedness, like gifts for no reason and random thank you notes that are not a regular part of interaction are a way to uplift those around you. Not expected but introducing and spreading delight.

Start a delight pact with yourself by asking these questions. Make a list and every now and then incorporate a surprise delight for yourself or another to live life better.

-What brings me joy?

-What brings me pleasure?

-When is the last time I felt delighted and what caused it?

-How can I bring delight to others?

The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.

-Henry Ward Beecher

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Find the Good (and the delight)

Becky and Janette

Becky Wilbur - Silver Lining Specialist at Well-Being and Wonder

Silver Lining Specialist

Becky Wilbur is a woman who is wise-hearted and chooses to live with ease.   Well-being is the vision which lights her way with peace and love. 

As an encourager, healer and champion for flourishing and contentment, she is honored to inspire others on their journey of change. 

She is a widow, a mom to two girls and a mutt named Sadie from Modesto, CA.

Contact her at beckywilbur@yahoo.com

Creativity: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Creativity

I was born to create, and it is such an important part of my life.

Your Words of Wisdom (WOW) Guidance Card of the week for Living Life Better.

Definition: original ideas, bring something into existence

Other: innovation, vision inventiveness

Opposite: dull, unimaginative, conformity, fear of failure

The origin of the word creativity, during the late Middle Ages, was “to form out of nothing”. It is the ability to express ourselves in new ways, stepping outside of the box. It can be how we experience life every single day.

Creativity is an attitude of mind. It is the mental capacity to generate novel and useful ideas and how to communicate them. It is like a muscle, the more you use it the stronger the skill becomes. Creativity requires practice.

Creativity is not necessarily just art, like painting or drawing. There are many ways to practice creativity:

·       arrange a vase of flowers

·       write a poem

·       compose music or a song or singing

·       choreograph a dance

·       problem-solving

·       plant a garden

·       learn a new skill

Creativity requires more than imagination. Imagination is the ability to think of things that don’t already exist. Creativity is the act of taking what is imagined and bring it to life. People who have ideas but never act on them are not creative. They are good at imagining. It is the first step to become creative.

The research shows many benefits from creativity:

·       reduces stress and anxiety

·       increased mood

·       heightened cognitive function

·       reduced risk of chronic illness

·       improved immune health

·       feeling of accomplishment and pride

·       enter your happy zone

·       sense of purpose

·       have fun

·       better problem solver

·       see things differently

·       deal with uncertainty with less trepidation

The first thing to awakening your creativity is to believe it is possible and that you are creative. Creativity requires curiosity, exploration and hard work. The acceptance of mistakes and risk-taking to think differently will be utilized often. Some ways to enhance periods of creativity are from time alone, meditation going for a walk, listening to music, dancing, journaling and travel. Motivation for creativity can come from your inner “muse”, boredom or trying to stay in the present moment or even a tight deadline. When we are involved in creativity we may feel like we are living more fully. There is no wrong way or right way to a path of creativity. Living life better with creativity leads to a life lived in technicolor.

Find the Good,

Becky and Janette

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Silver Lining Specialist

Becky Wilbur is a woman who is wise-hearted and chooses to live with ease.   Well-being is the vision which lights her way with peace and love. 

As an encourager, healer and champion for flourishing and contentment, she is honored to inspire others on their journey of change. 

She is a widow, a mom to two girls and a mutt named Sadie from Modesto, CA.

Contact her at beckywilbur@yahoo.com

Quiet: Your WOW Card of the Week Message

Quiet

Shh…I’m Be-ing…

QUIET
Shhh...I’m being.  

Definition: hush, silent, tranquility  
Other: stillness, calm  
Opposite: noise, chaotic, din  

I’m working (not the best terminology here) on being a better BE-er. I’ve got the doing part down pat…to a science. You probably have too.   Perhaps, you are also desiring the need to just BE, and be quiet.

We are human be-ings, not human do-ings. Especially these days during so much uncertainty, unrest and chaos, the need for being and quiet is coveted.   So what does quiet feel like in your body?

Peace in my heart.

Peace in my mind.

Peace in my spirit.  

Conversely, is it possible to be quiet and stressed? Yes, sirree. Think about when you may have been so mad, hurt, or shocked that you were unable to formulate or utter a response. Peace is hard to find at that moment. It is not the sensation of calm or being that this message of quiet is inviting us to consider.

I love my morning quiet time. It is the way for me to set the tone for the best day possible. I even wrote about its importance in my chapter in The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing, Volume 3, titled Daily Rituals: Conjuring Up a Magical Life Using Intention, published on Oct. 1, 2020.

I also love the gift of Sunday morning and the quiet it provides. I enjoy getting up early before the rest of the world is stirring to enjoy the peace and tranquility of this special time.  

“Sometimes it’s best to stay quiet. The silence can speak volumes without ever saying a word.” Anonymous  

So, what are some ways to get quiet and just be?

·       Take 3 deep breaths, hold, release…repeat 3 times

·       Listen to soothing music

·       Be out in nature

·       Spend time with animals or your pets

·       Meditate

·       Rest

·       Garden

·       Create

·       Color

·       Close your eyes and just be for a few minutes

·       Bathe

·       Watch a candle or flame

·       Cloudwatch or stargaze

·       Enjoy a favorite yoga pose  

I am going to take this message to heart this week and remember the importance of being quiet and just being. I will focus on intentional quiet time to nurture my body, mind, and spirit by just being. Perhaps, you’d like to join in.   We’d love to hear about your experiences of being quiet and being…and how this message resonated with you, dear heart.

Living life better through the gift of quiet and being can lead to living life out loud in all your glory.  

Find the Good,

Becky and Janette

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